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Best Time To Leave A Bad Relationship

Bad Relationship
Bad Relationship

Ask yourself: Why are you holding on to a troubled relationship so tightly?

It’s not easy to decide when enough is enough and walk away. It’s especially hard when you’ve invested a lot of time and deep emotions are involved.

There’s a saying that people come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. It can be really hard to discern who is worth holding on to and when it’s appropriate to just let go.

There will come a time in your troubled relationship when you will find yourself asking, “How much more frustration, worry or sadness am I prepared to take in order to keep this relationship going?”

It’s not easy to end a difficult relationship if it’s been big part of your life. And honestly, these relationships are always a big part of your life because they’re full of drama and require so much of your constant attention.

It’s not uncommon to find yourself caught in the trap of “wishful hoping,” which keeps you more focused on the future and avoiding the truth of the present. We’ve all been there; making excuses for bad behavior and rationalizing against all odds how things are bound to get better.

You may have been working on yourself for years and found, much to your frustration, that it has helped you, but it hasn’t changed your partner’s behavior at all. That’s another trap because the fact is it’s not your business to try to change anyone else. But then you discover you’re spending most of your time and energy trying to do just that!

You have to ask yourself why you’re holding on to a troubled relationship so tightly. How is this relationship serving you? There must be some benefit you’re receiving or you wouldn’t be putting up with the discomfort and the pain. Sometimes ,the benefit is that you have an excuse not to take responsibility for your own life (being a victim) because you’re distracted with your “relationship problem.”

Also, you have to know that the biggest reason you hold on long after you should let go is fear. You’re afraid to be alone or afraid there will be no one else who will want you. But fear will be your jailor and will color every aspect of your life. Living with fear is the same as being in a state of constant stress. It will negatively affect your mind and body.

To know whether to leave a troubled relationship you have to ask yourself some tough questions: Are you staying in the relationship hoping your partner will change? Have you lost a part of yourself by denying what you want and need just to keep the relationship going? Is the relationship getting better and stronger with time or is it getting more chaotic and difficult?

If the answer to any of these is “yes”, you should consider leaving. You may be responsible for creating the relationships in your life, but that doesn’t mean you have to suffer in a relationship if it is no longer working for you. As Maya Angelou says, “When you know better, you do better.”

You can be in a healthy relationship , one where you and your partner get along as equals. One where you’re both doing the work needed to keep love and respect your first priority.

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“I Met My Husband Through Yahoo Yahoo” – Lady Who Married A 90-year-old White Man Reveals

I Met My Husband Through Yahoo Yahoo
I Met My Husband Through Yahoo Yahoo
I Met My Husband Through Yahoo Yahoo

Ghanaian woman who went viral after sharing a loved up photo with her 90-year-old white husband, has detailed how she met her husband.

As to how she met the white man, she explained it was through one guy she met at Circle, in front of the Vodafone office, when she went there to sell pieces of stuff to survive.

She claimed, the guy introduced her into frauding (what is termed as Sakawa in Ghana), known as “Yahoo Yahoo” in Nigeria.

Ashlorm said, even before she met the guy who introduced her, they had already defrauded the man(now her husband) on several occasions and her role is to keep up the pretense so they can continue to get more money from him.

She finally got married to the old white man as she claimed was a fine opportunity to get out of the country—Probably help do away with her depression.

Even when she got to England it became a tussle between her and the guy who introduced her to the man because they kept demanding money from her.

She finally had to confess to the white man who, in a reaction got her deported back to the country — amidst sleeping with multiple partners because she was addicted to cex.

Back to Ghana, she continued her old lifestyle — chilling, sexing, clubbing, smoking and even selling drugs herself. She met Christ along the line and her life changed and is now an evangelist whose focus is to use the word of God to help people who are suffering from depression.

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If he cheats with a Girl and you don’t want to leave, cheat back with a better Pen!s – Lady advices

If he cheats with a Girl and you don’t want to leave, cheat back with a better Pen!s - Lady advicesFacebook user, Ada Uchenna, took to Facebook to disclose how she fought with two half-naked girls she saw with her ex-fiance, as she disclosed that she can be emotionally messy when she is love.

According to the lady, the incident occurred after she visited her ex-fiance at his house in Port-Harcourt, Rivers State. It’s a lengthy post, brace up;

So I fought with two girls over my ex fiancée

Yes, you heard me right. Some of the things you think you cannot do, wait till ara ahụ akpọrọ lọvụ ka ọ gba gị… Then you’ll know for sure your limit and self control capacity.

All through my teenage, early adult life, relationships were something I never gave thoughts to. I loved once and I knew how emotionally messy I can be when I love. Anyway that was then, when I thought that love is all about emotions and how I feel. (note, love have little or nothing to do with emotions. It is a deliberate act).

When I was writing my junior waec, a boy desperately fell in love with me. Pure unadulterated love. He asked for nothing in return. He fought my battles, coached me, built a solid foundation from which I was able to note genuine love from afar. He made me realize that a man can wait for you if he truly sees a future with you. That any man that asks you for sex in a place of proving how much you love him is a fraud. Kai, Igwebuike taught me plenty things oo. I owe him a lot but yadiba.

So, when Igwe’s parents refused us from being together because I had no father, I decided to lock my heart and face my studies. During these period, I met good, bad and the ugly men. Some I liked, some I just wanted their money, while some even wanted sex with. Well, university came and went. By now I’ve had many suitors, some I wanted to marry but they could not deal with my strong personality, some I didn’t want to marry but was almost pushed to and some I had mixed feelings for.

Immediately a girl is about 25, society begins to count years for her like life depends on getting married and breeding children.

Just like each of us, I wanted to be called Mrs sombori, ehen nụ. Ka akpọm nwunye mmadụ. Fortunately I met and passed 25 without getting married. So, in 2016 I met this my Ex. He was a sweet boy. A very caring handsome young dude bubbling with big dreams which I wanted to be a part of. His major weakness is that he is a Public P3nis. He swayed me off my feet that within 3 months I already said yes to his proposal. I left town for a few months job training, just to come back to lots of drama.

Initially when we started, I told him I am team no Sex before proper marriage, he thought he would use the engagement to get in between my legs, unfortunately it didn’t work for him. So we started having some petty arguments. During one of the arguments I threw his ring back at him and called it over. The next day, when I was stable, I went to his house, only to meet two girls half naked. I didn’t even say a word. I went to kitchen to prepare food, after which I took my bath, wore his shirt and came to the living room. By now it was already night and the girls were not even shaking body to go. I politely asked them to go that I have some things to discuss with my man and it is getting late. That they can come back next day to continue their gist.

Before I knew what was happening… These two young ladies descended on me, ha tirim don’t be silly. Ha kụrụ mụ ihe ka nwatakịrị. They made me understood that my Ex is not yet legally married to me and so they have equal rights as me to be in his house.

When these ladies where pounding me like Akpụ, my supposed love of my life was doing absolutely nothing. He was forced to act when neighbors came and knocked so as to separate us. By then, ụmụ ọgbanje a ejirilam gwọọ abacha.

Two days later, one of the girls that fought me, one of if the Girls that my ex claimed he has nothing to do with her packed into his house.

Well, he was f*cking her in the night and was begging me in the day to not give up on him. To accept him back. Mana obi gbawaram. I love extremely and I hate Extremely too. I don’t have a middle ground for love and hate. It’s either I love you or not.

If he cheats with a Girl and you don’t want to leave, cheat back with a better Pen!s - Lady advicesWell, that was how it ended sha.

Why did I tell you this story? I made a post yesterday stating that women are not supposed to fight other women over their men. Many women concurred and stated vehemently how they can never stoop so low. Mana Kam gwa unu eziokwu, you will never know what you can do until you are exposed to a situation.

Women that fight other women because of their men are not entirely bad or wrong. If you are to be in their shoes, trust me you may do worst. Most times it is out of anger and jealous. This is why emotional maturity is required for you before you think of getting involved in a relationship or even marriage. For instance, the guy I am currently banging, if he eventually thinks he wants to cheat, it is his loss. I have plenty things outlined for me to achieve other than dying for a less deserving public p*nis. But eventually if I let it go, then mind you, I too will be strafing other d*cks… Whether intentionally or not. So if he cannot taste the food he serves, he better not cook it.

Ladies, it is true we love and trust even those who do not deserve us, please no man is worth your fight. Even your husband. If he loved you, he will put in efforts to avoid falling into temptation of cheating on you. Do not be carried away with the lies that men can cheat and still love their wives. It is a big lie. Stop suffering the emotional abuse. If you cannot cheat back, please use the exit door instead of fighting your fellow woman over your wayward husband.

By the way, I support the law of an eye for an eye, if he cheats with a Girl and you don’t want to leave, cheat back with a better d*ck. Cheating is not gender specific. I can supply you as many d*cks as you want. That you cheated on him does not mean you are a bad mother or an irresponsible wife.

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7 Things All Women Need For a successful Relationship

7 Things All Women Need For a successful Relationship
7 Things All Women Need For a successful RelationshipUnderstanding what you can do to help your partner fully open will not only improve your relationship, but it will improve your entire life.
Here are the seven things that all women want in a relationship.

1. To Feel Loved

When women feel loved, they relax and open to us. The arguments dissipate, the sex is abundant, and their nurturing feminine energy flows throughout our lives.
Not feeling loved is the subtext of every argument that you and your partner have.
If she is unhappy that you are going out with your friends, or she’s upset about her day at work, or she is only responding to you with brief snippets of sentences, then the cause is most likely her not feeling loved enough.
Learn to see through her words, actions, and moods and see what the real root of it is.

2. To Feel Safe

There is a war being waged on women’s self-esteem, sexuality, and safety from a very young age.
Because of the barrage of disempowering messages being sent to women regarding their sexuality, women need to have a safe space where they feel that they can trust their partners.
She wants to trust your strength. She wants to feel like you can handle whatever she shows you.
She wants to feel like you will not judge her if she asks for something risqué. She wants to know you won’t collapse in defeat if she tells you to do it “This way” instead.
By creating a safe space for your woman to open up to you emotionally and sexually, you will be giving her a very powerful gift- you allow her to grow within your relationship and undo old emotional damage.

3. To Feel Seen

Women want to feel seen.
She wants to feel you hearing her, and being aware of her emotional state.
She doesn’t necessarily want you to be affected by her emotional state, but she does want you to be witness to it.
If she is sitting across the room from you and you aren’t picking up on the fact that she is suffering emotionally and on the verge of tears, she will begin to trust you less. She will think, “If he can’t see that I am hurting now, how long will it take him to figure it out? Will I be suffering for days or weeks before he is aware of it or cares enough to help me through this? I guess I have to rely on myself for my own emotional support.”
Life can seem extremely lonely, even within a relationship. You have to constantly show your partner that at least one person will be witness to her and her journey through life. (Hint: that person is you.)

4. To Be Allowed To Be Nurturing

Just as masculine energy has the need to protect, feminine energy has the desire to nurture.
Women want to see the cracks in our armour. They want to see that we trust them enough to open up to them. They want to be able to help us through our sadness.
An integrated, evolved man who has a balanced masculine energy as well as his own sliver of feminine would welcome his woman’s nurturing.
If you are a guy reading this, have you ever held open a door for a woman because it’s the polite thing to do (but more just because she’s a person and it wasn’t even a gender-based act) and she chews your ear off for it? “Oh what? I can’t open the door for myself because I’m a woman?! You sexist pig!”
That is an example of a wounded, unbalanced woman who doesn’t want to accept help from a masculine source. This is exactly how it feels to your partner when you push her away when you feel the most vulnerable. “I don’t need to lay my head down on your chest and tell you about my feelings because I don’t have any!” That is a lie. It’s a lie that serves your purpose of not letting your partner in. This lack of vulnerability and authenticity is what is making you and your partner suffer.
So let her in. She wants to love you.

5. To Feel Sexually Desired

What’s a major difference between your relationship to your partner and your relationship to everyone else in your life? You have sex with your partner.
Women need to feel sexually desired. They want to make sure that you see and appreciate them as a feminine, sexual being.
Praise her body. Feel her and grab her appreciatively. Remind her that you see her as a sexual being and you will both benefit.

6. To Be Appreciated

The feminine in all people responds primarily to praise and appreciation.
Remind your partner that you love her. Tell her that you appreciate what she brings to your life. Show her how much she means to you.
The fastest way to run your relationship into the ground is by ignoring your partner and taking her for granted. Appreciation is the opposite of those things. Appreciation is the embodying this mindset: “I am aware of what you bring to my life, and I want you to be sure that I am aware of it as well.”
So tell her what you appreciate, and tell her often.

7. To Feel Like She Can Count On You

Life gets pretty messy sometimes.
When life’s unavoidable difficulties arise, do you fall apart under pressure or are you able to bend and not break?
Women want to know that we can handle ourselves when life happens. They want to know that we won’t run and hide when they get a bit ‘too emotional’ for our liking. They want to know that they can count on us.
When you tell your partner you’ll do something, and then you don’t do it, it hurts her. She loses a piece of trust in you that has to be earned back. Even seemingly small things break that trust like you saying that you will wash the dishes shortly after dinner, but washing them the next morning instead.
When enough small transgressions like this are sprinkled throughout your relationship, she will distrust you.
Do what you say you will do, be who you say you are, and be consistent in your actions.

What Do Women Want In A Relationship?

Women want partners that care.
Women don’t want perfect partners; they want men who are striving to be their best selves.
She doesn’t necessarily want someone who has every step of his life pre-planned, but she wants someone with drive and with goals.
She doesn’t necessarily want someone who cries every day, but she does want someone who has the courage to cry in front of her when he needs to.
She doesn’t necessarily want someone who stays in therapy for his entire life, but she does want someone who has the courage to face his own emotional demons.
So put in the work. End the stalemate. Decide that you want to be in the kind of relationship that most people don’t have and you want to put in the effort necessary to become that kind of man.
The women of the world are waiting for us. And they want us to step up just as badly as we want them to open up.
Dedicated to your success,

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11 things you should never risk doing for your girlfriend

risk doing for your girlfriend

Most men act childish when they are really in love and this has cost them a great deal. We are not saying you shouldn’t be romantic, it is a good thing to be romantic but not to the detriment of yourself and you should know that, just because something might be done in the name of love does not make it the right thing to do and these are the few you should try as much as possible to avoid or never be tempted to do for a woman, regardless.

1. Steal For Her
Obviously, we all know where this will end you and by the time you will be back, someone might have taken your place. Never allow anything to push you to steal in order to please your woman because if she later finds out you actually stole a gift for her, she might drop you, unless of course, you are in it together like Bonny and Clyde.

2. Pay For Her Education
It is not a bad thing to support her education, if you can help but to take full responsibility for everything to your own detriment can be dangerous. We are all humans and we change from time to time, most men actually think funding a girl’s education means they’ll be forever indebted to them, ending up getting married to them but we’ve seen several scenarios where the women will end up finding love elsewhere. This has been suicidal to many men.

3. Buy Her A House When You Don’t Have One
Common sense should tell you, you should build your dreams together but not favor her and think of yours later. Building a house for a woman when you don’t have one yourself can make you is wrong in every way. When she finally jilts you and lives in it with another man. There are many men still biting their fingers over this.

4. Fight Another Man Because Of Her
Fighting because of her doesn’t prove anything. Two things are likely to happen, either the person beats you to a pulp and end up in the hospital or you will beat the person and end up in jail, either way, you don’t win. Unless it is for self-defense.

5. Reject Your Family Because Of Her
A family is everything and no matter what, you can’t reject them because your woman doesn’t like them. It will be very dangerous on your part to reject your family all because of a woman.

6. Change Your Appearance
These days, there are many men doing a lot, taking pills to make changes to their bodies all because they feel that’s what women love. Changing you to please a woman means the moment you stop trying she’ll go, ideally, people you be with should love you for who you are.

7. Give Up On Your Dreams To Satisfy Her
So there are many men out there who gave up on their dreams to help their woman achieve theirs or were discouraged by women. These same women dumped them afterwards. Never do this after reading this.

8. Being Over-Submissive
It is nice to be sweet to your woman but always learn to set the records straight and don’t try to always appear weak to her and succumb to all her wishes in the interest of pleasing her. Truth is, women actually hate weak men and will prefer you’re sweet and sour.

9. Starve Yourself For Her
Never forfeit your food for her, at least you can share but to give all to her and go hungry, that’s not love, that’s stupidity.

10. Kill For Her
Never ever even think about executing such an atrocity for a woman no matter how convincing the situation is, because if you end up in jail, another man will take your position.

11. Die For Her, Literally
So many men have committed suicide because of a woman. What’s the sense in it when you’re finally dead and gone. Live to fight another day.

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8 Things That Kills Women’s $exual Urge Which You Must Avoid (MUST SEE)

8 Things That Kills Women's $exual Urge Which You Must Avoid

8 Things That Kills Women's $exual Urge Which You Must AvoidA woman’s $exual desires naturally fluctuate over the years, it can be very difficult to tell exactly what is currently affecting your partner’s $ex drive. So if your woman wants to have $ex less often, here is a collection of issues that may be affecting her $exual desire.

1. Poor self image
Confidence issues along with poor self-image pose major hindrances to a healthy $ex life. Women with a poor self image usually want the lights out and won’t fully undress in front of you. It can take a long time for a woman to get comfortable in her own skin, so the best thing you can do is remind her how of beautiful she is and make her feel $exy.
2.  Her use of birth control pills
Birth control pills prevent ovulation, which is the peak of a woman’s fertility, and therefore natural $exual desire. Furthermore, the lack of fluctuating hormones and chemical changes means a woman’s $ex drive can be leveled completely, meaning that if her libido is already low, it could just stay that way.
3. Anxiety
Her anxiety can also have an adverse effect on your $ex life. Anxiety can be caused by various reasons such as abuse, rape or some deep traumatic experience that your girlfriend may have suffered as a child or as an adolescent. It’s not easy in the beginning, but with good communication, the situation can eventually be handled and  resolved.
4. Her use of prescription medications
Many prescription medications–including some antidepressants and anti-seizure medications–are notorious libido killers.
5. Her use of illegal drugs
Excessive consumption of alcohol and street drugs may make your partner feel amorous, but they can also spoil her $ex drive. Most illegal substances are known to cause $exual dysfunction in women, while certain ones actually dry the vagina (and mouth) up.
6. Illnesses
Pregnancy, pain during $ex or an inability to orgasm, arthritis, cancer, diabetes, high blood pressure or coronary artery diseases are some physical causes that women may experience which can lower their $ex drive.
 7. Stress
Her diminished interest in $ex is one of many symptoms that can develop as a result of increased psychological stress, especially if she has financial or work stress.
8.  Lack of connection with you 
For many women, emotional closeness is an essential prelude to $exual intimacy. So your emotional unavailability coupled with poor communication of her $exual needs and preferences can be a major factor in her low $ex drive.
Low $ex drive can be very difficult for you and your partner. It can also make her feel rejected, which can lead to conflicts and strife, further reducing her desire for $ex. Remember, helping your woman feel good about herself can actually be the best foreplay.

Author: Abiola Stephen (Speak2AbiolasStephen)

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”It is not a sin to have sexual thoughts” Relationship expert Amara Blessing Nwosu

Relationship expert Amara Blessing Nwosu

Relationship expert Amara Blessing NwosuRelationship expert Amara Blessing Nwosu shared her thought provoking piece on having sexual thoughts below

Dear Brethren,

When has sexual thought become a sin? If you like, deny it; if you like, tell me I am a liar, the fact is that your teenager is struggling with sexual thoughts and it’s a phase he or she must go through. Being born again doesn’t mean you stop existing in this world; it doesn’t mean you will stop being human, it only means that the Holy Spirit is there to guide you aright and help you not to dwell long in it and not to mess yourself up with that thought. But are you going to stop being human? The answer is NO! Even your bishop struggles with sexual thoughts and feelings sometimes. God who created you didn’t make a mistake, He made you that way. If at a certain stage of your life, you don’t have sexual thoughts and feelings, something is wrong with you. But like I said, part of your being born-again is in your ability to bring your body under subjection. I wonder what some people think that the word ‘Born Again’ means.

So many of us tend to think of our bodily responses as evil. Somewhere in our minds, the physical is bad and sinful; I used to reason like that until I developed a better understanding of God’s holy word. God created our bodies to respond the way they do. Our bodies become ready for sex at a young age, during puberty, which is completely natural.

Please don’t destroy your children by telling them all those negative things about sex because it has led a lot of young people into masturbation, homosexuality, and frigidity in adulthood. I have handled cases of women running away and screaming in pain whenever their husband approaches them for sex. They don’t scream because the man’s penis is too big; they don’t scream because it’s actually painful, their scream is psychological. Two of such women recently confessed to me that they are in that mess because of all the negative things they were told about sex.

Let your children know that sex is a very beautiful experience but they should get involved in it the right way-marriage, when they are grown and ready to bear the consequences of their act. All you need to do is to teach them the word of God and let them be. Stop feeding them with fear all in the name of good parenting (now I know that those religious folks that always see negative in articles like this will twist this to mean something else).

Now, I’m not at all advocating for sex before marriage or people to push past physical boundaries they’re uncomfortable with! The Bible is clear about sexual immorality and that we are to stay far from it. God honors sex within marriage, not outside of it (though many “brothers” have deceived “sisters” into marrying impotency all in the name of ‘no sex before marriage’)

As humans created in God’s image and filled with his spirit, we need to keep our thoughts pure. What it takes to do that might be different for each person. But I think we can also remember that part of the way God created humans — in His image — was in a very physical way. This is something all over the Scriptures, but we’ve watered it down due to the influence, not of the Bible, but of Greek thought.

What I’m not saying is that sexual desire is super awesome so do whatever you can with your boyfriend or girlfriend to bring those feelings on. What I am saying is that it is important for us to have a correct and biblical way of thinking about physicality. Having sexual thought is not a sin; it’s only a part of God’s work in you and it makes you a normal person. But dwelling on it and watching, reading, or doing things to keep that thought permanent in you is what is sinful.

God created sex as a good thing. Our culture and religion has distorted that picture and made sex something very ungodly. Because of the secular culture’s distortion of sex, many Christians have responded by making anything sexual bad and wrong. This is why a good number of religious people don’t enjoy sex in marriage. Instead of talking about our bodies and sex as something awesome and beautiful that God has created for marriage, we bash it for years and years and then expect the negative language and thoughts about sex to immediately dissipate once a couple says “I do” (wondering why married Christian couples keep having problems in their bedroom).

So, my point: How do we think about the physical in general? We are Christians, but has our thought process been a bit influenced by traces of Gnosticism — are we more comfortable with a non-physical, spiritual world? If so, why?

A lot of questions, I know! But our actions are influenced by our true beliefs. That’s why I feel it’s crucial that we take a look at the way we think about these things, making sure that our thoughts on this topic are truly biblical. That’s why I believe that it time for the church to rise and speak to married couples on sex and sexuality. A good number of problems coming to me for counseling emanated from lack of sexual satisfaction in marriage. Preachers, please stop being timid to tell your members the truth they need to hear. If you can’t speak this truth, please face the spiritual aspect of your ministry and get someone to come educate your members on the need for good sex in marriage.

Finally, on ladies worrying about size of penis, it’s not about the size; it’s more about the skill. Good lovemaking is never about macho and king size; it’s about true love and intimacy. Trust me; he can get you screaming with that thing you call ‘small’. Don’t let those porn videos you watch deceive you, there is no intimacy between them and they are mostly on drugs when they do that.

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Things you Should Never Try Doing After a Relationship Break-Up

Relationship Break-Up

Relationship Break-UpFind healthy ways to cope and before you know it, you are back to yourself and it has become a distant memory. Before you get there, it’s important to observe breakup etiquette which can save a whole lot of heart ache and embarrassment. While you’re still recovering from the breakup here are six things you should never do:Relationship Break-Up

  • Pretend you are ok

Never lie to yourself that you are fine immediately after a breakup. It hurts and that pain has to be dealt with. If you have to cry, cry! take a break from work or punch a pillow, do it! Let it out and surround yourself with people who will help you heal.

  • Revenge

Getting even can be very tempting especially if you feel wronged. But is it worth being locked up for? This will only fuel your anger and bitterness. Learn to forgive and let go.

  • Urge to communicate

As emotions come flooding, there are times you will want to call or sms your ex because you miss him. Don’t! Unless it’s an emergency, resist the urge. Breakups tend to create voids and many feel lost because there daily habits revolved around someone else. Once the thoughts start creeping in, call a friend instead and keep yourself busy as you learn to adapt to the breakup.Relationship Break-Up

  • Stalking your partner

Social media has made life much harder especially after a breakup. There is the constant temptation to know how your ex is doing, what he’s up to, if he has a new girlfriend etc. Don’t post any breakup drama quotes because it will reveal how weak you are. If you feel like you need to block, unfriend to avoid stalking temptations, go ahead!

  • Breakup sintercourse

This is never ever a good idea. Not only will it leave you feeling used and hurt but can be the beginning of a complex situation that will lead to no good. Let it be a clean breakup that you have done some closure.

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“Don’t feel less than a man because you release in 3-5minutes’ -Nigerian doctor advises

release in 3-5minutes

Nigerian DoctorDr Olufunmilayo, took to Twitter to stand in the gap against discrimination against men who release in 3-5minutes during sex.

The Twitter convo was sparked after a Twitter user approached the doctor, for a drug to boost his sexual performance of his 23 year old friend who last just release in 3-5minutes during sex with his wife. According to the doctor, it is called love making, not drilling for crude oil.

Here are the tweets below;

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Joro Olumofin: Any Guy That Did Not Spend Up To N15000 On You This Period, Cut Him Off

Joro Olumofin

Joro Olumofin has sparked a debate online with his latest post.

According to him, any guy who doesn’t spend up to N15000 on his woman this Christmas period, is not worthy to  be with her. He advised that such women should cut such men off.

Ladies and gentlemen, do you with this;

Any Guy That Did Not Spend Up To N15000 On You This Period, Cut Him Off

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How To Get A Guy To Ask You Out In 9 Tricky Ways

Get A Guy To Ask You Out In 9 Tricky Ways
Get A Guy To Ask You Out In 9 Tricky Ways
Get A Guy To Ask You Out In 9 Tricky Ways

There are many ways to ask a guy out, But to ensure that it works on a guy, you have to remember to never make it obvious that you have a huge crush on him.

Let a guy know that you’re interested in him.

But don’t let him know you need him. Not at least until he starts reciprocating your move.

A guy may want to ask you out, but when he realizes that you like him a lot more than he likes you, he’d start to take it easy just to see what you’d do about it.

And that’s something you should never forget.

How to get a guy to ask you out

There are two things a girl has to do to wow a guy and get him to ask her out.

You have to drop a few signs.

And you have to become desirable in his eyes.

The little signs that matter

Drop a few signs so he starts to look at you as a dating potential.

Sometimes, a guy may assume you’d never be interested in being anything more than friends with him.

To help him see the dating side in you, here are a few tips you could use.

#1 Get your friend to call you both a couple

When you’re having a fun chat with the guy you like, ask a trusted girl friend to join both of you in the conversation. It would be preferable if there are other friends around too. And out of the blue, let your trusted friend comment to no one in particular in the group and say something like, “these two make a cute couple, don’t they?”

It’s an awkward statement, and one that’ll definitely lead to a few laughs around the group. But all said and done, no matter how embarrassed you pretend to be or how he behaves, the thought will still linger in his head.

#2 Using a friend to tease him

Now don’t use all these strategies all the time. Just use a few that you’re comfortable with.

The next time you’re having a conversation with this guy, tell your friend beforehand to butt into the conversation. Ask your friend to tell the guy that it’s so obvious he likes you, and ask him when he’s ever going work up his courage to ask you out?! Of course, she has to make it seem like a joke, and yet, pose it as a serious question.

It’s straightforward and easy, and yet, you didn’t really ask him out yourself. If he does like you, he’ll use this opportunity to ask you out himself.

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Broke Guys Need To Stop Telling These 11 Big Lies To Women

The reality is, no one wants a guy who lacks ambition and is not hardworking. A man should be able to provide and woo a woman in a manner that can make her stay with him if things do get thick. But if you’re broke because you just don’t like working and all, then here are lies you need to stop telling women.

1. I don’t like a demanding woman.

2. I am not materialistic why should I try and impress women with better things?

3. Women just like money so I would rather not date.

4. You should stay with me because I am going to make it big and you will miss me.

5. Any lady who doesn’t like my brokeness should just walk out.

6. Money isn’t everything.

7. My family is so rich and I will take over the business someday.

8. Ladies who like men with money are gold diggers or socialites.

9. A lady should also be able to treat me.
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10. Support me now and I will always have your back when I make it.

11. As long as I am alive I am happy enough.

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10 Romantic Yoruba Words You Can Use For Bae

If you’re someone who doesn’t like the conventional pet names out there, here are some romantic Yoruba words you can use as a pet name for your other half:’

1. Ife mi

This means “my love” and can be used for both a bobo and sisi.

2. Ododo mi

Guys, if you think your bae is super precious to you, calling her “my flower” will convey that to her

3. Onitemi
No word says “mine” in a romantic way like Onitemi.Romantic Yoruba Words

4. Ololufe
If your bae is your only lover, then “ololufe” is the pet name to use. You can even use Wande Coal’s Olulufe as your bae’s special ringtone!

5. Ayanfe
When you have chosen to love someone with all your heart, Ayanfe is the perfect pet name for them.Romantic Yoruba Words

6. Arewa
Is your girlfriend/wife the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen? Then you can nickname her Arewa.

7. Aya mi
Forget the Iyawo wa that Yoruba demons and their friends have corrupted. Go for Aya mi which means “my wife”.

8. Olowo ori mi
Ladies, thrill your man by calling him “olowo ori mi”. You’re basically calling him the one who paid your brideprice aka husband. If you call your boyfriend this, he will just take the hint!

9. Orekelewa
There is a beauty that surpasses all other beauties. If your girl is in this class, then Orekelewa would be the perfect pet name for her.

10. Ade ori mi
Sometimes when you start dating someone, everything in your life falls into place. If this is you, then the best pet name for your blessing aka partner is ade ori mi (my crown).

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5 Things Couples Can Do To Boost Intimacy


The fire of love needs to stoked from time to time after the initial butterflies and passion, to keep it going. This is just the nature of love, romance and most things in life; they need to be nurtured so that they don’t die. Wise couples know this and make the commitment to do what they can to make their love last.

Couples can do these 5 things to increase their intimacy and maintain their desire for each other:

Cook Together

The process of planning and cooking a meal together really looks simple but it can help couples build closeness and intimacy.

It requires them to communicate and co-operate with each other and as they share in the work involved and the eventual results, they get to spend quality time with each other.

Couples could even try cooking in their underwear or cooking naked to make it more intimate.


Write letters to each other

This should be done not as a replacement of normal communication but as an exercise to become more open and honest with each other.

Couples could try writing a letter weekly to each other about their love life or make it even more specific by writing erotic letters to each other; this can help couples talk about secrets desires or fantasies that they may be shy about.

Shower Together

A shower is something that is a very private act; most couples prefer to shower together as something that happens once in a while. However, making a regular habit of showering together can help to break down barriers and help them get closer to each other.

As they lather and bath each other, they get to learn each other’s body and communicate better.

Go Shopping For Each Other

Sending each other to shop for their personal needs can help couples become more intimates. Alternating shopping list and doing the other person’s shopping like underwear and other stuff is great way to improve on communication and learning each other’s habits better.

Book a Room

A great way of cultivating intimacy is for couples to leave the familiar surroundings of their homes, the hustle and bustle of life and the kids and book a hotel room to be alone with each other.

This can help them to have conversations they have postponed, catch up with each other and have more time be intimate and romantic with each other.

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I Spent N35k On Her, She Deceived Me With Makeup – Guy Cries Out

A Young Nigerian man has called out a girl with whom he went on a date with, for tricking him that she’s beautiful, when she was indeed ugly beneath all the make up she had on.

He wrote on facebook ;

I spent 35k on her, imagine how ugly she is, she deceived me with make up, but all d same the money na pure water money. Thank GOD for good Camera, Fake Ladies everywhere

See photos below :

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9 Signs You Are A Very Terrible Girlfriend

Women always enjoy been right in the relationship and the truth is; women are not always right. What are the chances that you are a bad girlfriend?

Here are 9 signs:

1. You are flirty.
Flirting with other guys is a sign that you are not committed to your relationship. This is a major sign that you are a bad girlfriend.

2. You get upset easily.

You get upset easily.
You get upset easily.

Are you always upset? This means you are terrible company. Try to let small things go and surround yourself with positive people.

3. You lie.
If a man finds out that you lied, they tend to stop trusting you. This makes the man feel like you are taking him for granted and no one wants to feel this way. Always tell the truth no matter how painful it is.

4. You value your friends more than him.
If you prefer hanging out with your friends than with your man, then you are being a terrible girlfriend. You need to make time for your boo, find the perfect balance between your friendships and your relationship.

5. You control him.
Men hate it when you ask them to do things in a certain way, walk in a certain way or eat in a certain way. If things don’t go your way, you get upset. This is a sign you are a bad girlfriend.

6. Clingy.
If you keep checking if he’s online or snooping on his phone, you are being clingy. Give your boyfriend space to enjoy life without being sneaked up on. Show him that you really trust him.

7. Debbie downer.
It’s okay to be an introvert but it’s different when you always don’t want to do anything. If your boyfriend enjoys clubbing and you don’t, compromise and accompany him, at least once in a while.

8. You are dramatic.
If you’re jealous because of a certain situation, it would be great to wait till you’ve cooled down then talk about it. Being dramatic is not the solution.

9. You compare him with others.
Never compare your man with others. Encourage him to be better and appreciate the little things he does.

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“I Can’t Date You, If You Don’t Drive A Ferrari” – Nigerian Lady Brags (Photos)

Nigerian lady has shocked everyone including her friends as she revealed she’s only into ‘Big Men’. The lady reveals that she can’t go for “ordinary guys”..

In a post she made on Facebook, She said she’s got over 400 requests from Guys who are willing to date her, but then, none of them are good enough for her.

Below is what she wrote:-

 I have got 400 dating request from guys in 2017,I ain’t accepting them Cus none of them drives davidos ferarrie, small small car owners are all I see, I do big things. When you have ferrarie,please report back,I will reconsider